How Can Feedback Protect Trust in Friendship?

Feedback between friends can protect trust, but it can start to feel like a scorecard when old grievances pile up. A specific concern is easier to work with than a verdict on someone’s character—and both people need room to say what they meant and what they can realistically change.

When a friend raises something that hurt them, what helps you discuss the impact and agree on a next step without making either person prove they care?