What Do You Hear Inside Feedback?

When feedback stings, the words and the meaning we hear can blur together. “This section needs a clearer example” can quietly turn into “I’m bad at this”—but that conclusion isn’t contained in the sentence.

What helps you separate what was actually said from the story you added, while still taking useful feedback seriously? Do you ask for a concrete example, write down the exact wording, or find another way to make room for both honesty and self-compassion?