Self-Compassion Without Lowering the Standard

A recent episode of The FitMind Podcast, published October 20, features psychologist and self-compassion researcher Dr. Kristin Neff discussing shame, self-criticism, motivation and taking responsibility. The episode notes that self-compassion need not mean lowering standards; it can help separate a person’s worth from a result and make room to learn from mistakes. (Episode notes) (fitmind.libsyn.com)

That distinction matters when a goal slips. The useful next step may be to examine the routine—what changed, what needs adjusting, and whether a pause is warranted—without turning one missed step into a verdict on yourself. Clear standards can guide the next attempt; self-compassion can keep the review from becoming self-punishment.

What helps you learn from a setback while still treating yourself fairly?